Wendy's Everyday Dinners

Sunday, October 3, 2010

I was married at nineteen and among all the millions of things I didn't know at that age, I didn't know how to cook!  I could make canned soups and a few side dishes and that was about it. My little brother had to show me how to make a grilled cheese sandwich.  Kenneth and I worked opposite schedules and developed a habit of making reservations for dinner.  This was actually my first step to learn to cook.  I began to pay attention to what I liked and what flavors went together.

I grew up in a modest home with a mother who didn't know very much about cooking.  There was  never an herb in our house and the only spices were salt, pepper, seasoning salt, celery salt and cinnamon (which is a story for another day!)  There was also the occasional packet to make spaghetti.. which I thought was the worst thing on the face of the earth.  I am pretty sure the recipe my mother used went something like this....
brown hamburger, add a jar of tomatoes, spaghetti seasoning packet, serve over spaghetti noodles, garnish with powered parmesan cheese from a can.  Just thining about this make my stomach turn.  This was the one dinner I was given a free pass to skip and remember eating a slice of bread with peanut butter on nights this was served.

The funny thing is that italian food and pasta dishes with tomatoes are my favorite food as an adult.  In fact I think God made tomatoes and basil as a gift just for me!  One of our family comfort foods is  my Special Pasta.   What makes it so special?  Nothing at all!  Which is why it's so special.  Special Pasta can easily be jazzed up to be special of course, but it's really just a simple pantry meal.

Wendy’s Special Pasta

4 oz. linguine

1 can tomatoes, diced (do not drain) or 2 cups fresh roma or cherry tomatoes

1 tbs. olive oil (1 or 2 times around the pan)

1 tsp. basil (I prefer fresh, but often sub dried basil)

1/8 tsp. red pepper flakes

Parmesan cheese, freshly grated

Boil water for pasta.

In large frying pan add olive oil, tomatoes, basil and red pepper flakes. Cook on medium, breaking up tomatoes with wooden spoon. Cook pasta until just before al dente. Add pasta to tomato mixture along with a spoonful or two of the starchy pasta water to finish cooking. Stir until liquid is absorbed. Garnish with torn fresh basil and parmesan cheese.  Serves 2, can be doubled.

Serve with anything; chicken, steamed squash, etc. The best thing about this pasta is that it is totally yummy and there is nothing really special about it!  But it's good because it's made with fresh, simple ingredients and flavors that go together.

Also to note is that I use linguine instead of spaghetti. I like the way it holds sauce better.  I also add the pasta TO the sauce to finish the last minute or two of cooking. This is a more traditional way to bring together a pasta and sauce. Also, the starch in the cooking water helps to create the sauce.

Now back to how I learned to cook...

Like all american woman, after a few years I found myself with binders and files or recipes torn from magazines and printed from the internet and cooking shows.  Of course many of these were complicated and never attempted. I thinkk it all started with The Frugal Gourmet, then Martha Stewart, David Rosengarten, Emeril (the early days), The Two Hot Tamales, Ina Garten, and then there was Rachael Ray.

Rachael Ray changed my life.  Though I was finally learning the basics, hold to hold a knife properly, etc.  I wasn't putting what this new found knowledge into practice because I was so overwhelmed.  One day while watching Rachal Ray I realized that the meals I make every day were the quick 30-minute style meals.  She also gave me the freedom to not feel guilty about using prepackaged salad, canned beans rather than dried, etc. 

Rachael Ray grew up in the kitchen. She grew up cooking traditional dishes with her parents and even her grandfather.  Rachael found herself working as a buyer for a grocery store. She began to appear on the noon news broadcast to promote cooking quick meals with conveniences easily found in the grocery store.  She was fun and was eventually offered a cooking show of her own.

I began to assemble all of the quick meals we regularly cooked on weeknights and found ways to make my favorite complicated meals easier. I also included many of Rachael Ray's recipes.  I put them together in a book titled Wendy's Everyday Dinners.  I have also  tried to include the simple meals like my "special pasta" that we make often... you know the one's you don't need a recipe for.  This has now become our quick go to book.  When we try a new recipe, if we like it - it goes in the book!   And because they are all in once place, it's easy for Kenneth to make a meal (OK, so he's still better at making reservations).  If something ever happened to me and we needed help this would be a quick way to comfort my family, by having someone prepare meals they are used to eating.

What are YOUR Family's Everday Dinners?

Easy Chicken Cacciatore

About 15 year ago Kenneth's mother used a Prego prepared jar of cacciatore. It was a hit and I remember keeping this in my pantry as a new wife.  After a while my grocer stopped carrying the sauce and I forgot about it.  Years later when I was teaching myself to cook I learned that Chicken Cacciatore is a classic Italian dish.  It was traditionally made with the dark meat of rabbit or chicken.  Stewed with mushrooms until it was very tender and creating a beef like gravy.  Today people make it with tomatoes and often serve over pasta.  Although the long stewed recipes looked good I never bothered to try them until one day Rachael Ray talked about enjoying this rustic dish in Italy.  She came up with a quick version to add to her 30-minute meal collections.  Rachael used portabello mushrooms and some beef stock to give the sauce a meaty, stewed all day taste.  Easy made with ingredients I always have on hand (besides to portabello's) it's a entry in our Family Everday Dinners book! 

I will share Rachaels quick version, but you can do a search for her 'stoup' and vegetarian version if you are interested.  I think next time I will add some onion and celery.  Enjoy!  Let me know if your family enjoys this one!

1 1/4 pounds boneless, skinless chicken breast (3 pieces) or, 1 package boneless, skinless chicken thighs, if you prefer dark meat

Salt and freshly ground black pepper

2 tablespoons (2 turns around the pan) extra-virgin olive oil

1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes

2 portobello mushroom caps, halved crosswise and thinly sliced

4 cloves garlic, crushed and minced

1/2 cup beef broth or stock

1 (28-ounces) can crushed tomatoes

A handful flat-leaf parsley, chopped

1 pound egg ribbons or egg fettuccini, cooked to al dente

Crusty bread and grated Parmigiano or Romano
Heat a large nonstick skillet over medium high heat. Add half of the extra-virgin olive oil and brown chicken breasts or thighs for 3 or 4 minutes on each side. Remove chicken from pan and season with salt and pepper.

Return pan to stove, reduce heat to medium and add the remaining. Add crushed pepper, sliced mushrooms, and garlic. Season with salt (salt is a magnet for drawing out liquid). Cover and cook mushrooms 5 minutes or until mushrooms are dark, tender and have given off their juices. Add about 1/2 cup of beef broth to intensify the wild mushroom flavor, then stir in the tomatoes and parsley. Cut the chicken into bite-size chunks or slices and add to sauce. Simmer sauce 5 minutes to finish cooking chicken pieces and to allow the flavors to combine. Toss pasta with cacciatore and serve with crusty bread and grated cheese.

Enjoy!

There Is No Place Like Home

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

As September 11th rolls around each year it's impossible not to be reminded how easily our freedom can be taken away... Whatever conspiracy theories you may or may not believe, whatever political parties you support, the thought of our county and freedom being threatened is very upsetting. Quite simply because there is no place like home.

As we move forward, September 11th is another gift we can give ourselves each year. A time to thank those who serve our country.  A time to rethink what freedom means to us.  And a time to thank God for all we have.  To move forward we also must live our lives and recommit ourselves to the things we value, such as family.

This year we had the opportunity to spend time with our family and were lucky enough to attend events that included moments of honor for those who have been lost and those who continue to serve.  But most of all for us to live and enjoy the things we love most. I recently read that when asked to share a favorite childhood memory most people choose summertime memories, including sunny skies, baseball, friends, family, vacations, cars, etc.  And so, these things become what define us, who we are and what we hope for.

We feel blessed this week to enjoy stolen summer days, the sunshine, a visit with my family and make new childhood memories for our son....

Angels Stadium of Anaheim - Angels vs. Mariners


Extra Innings - We call this FREE BASEBALL!  What could be better?
Abreu hits a home run to win the game for the Angel's in the 14th inning

Pageant of The Thunderbirds


Uncle wins 1st place!
Awsumb had a wonderful time working in Uncle's shop this week to get the car ready for the show!

What activities and simple pleasures define America to you and your family?

Late Summer Disney Get Away

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

It may seem like we go to Disneyland a lot, but really we go to visit our favorite Auntie and Uncle.  Disney is an extra little perk. Summer seemed to go by in a flash this year.  And after weeks of Kenneth working around the clock, we needed a vacation.  Because we have Annual Passes this year and Kenneth found some hot 'end of season deals' we just had to go. So, can you handle the longest Disney Trip Report ever? 

SATURDAY – DISNEYLAND Midnight (3 attractions)
After a few days visiting with family grabbed dinner at In-N-Out and made the drive up Harbor Blvd. by 8pm to check in a The Grand Californian. Because Space Mountain was about to close for the Halloween overlay we raced over to SPACE MOUNTAIN X 2 and catch 9:30 Summer Fireworks then shop at Star Tours and Lego, Back to Hotel 11pm


SUNDAY – DISNEYLAND 9-Midnight
(28 Attractions)

We have had a long weekend of festivities, so we have breakfast in bed and get a late start. (Space Mountain, Star Tours, Haunted House closed)



Train from New Orleans to Toon Town. Mickey's House including photos with Mickey,
Minnie's house under construction, but we did get to take photos with her on the Street.


Awsumb likes to walk through Donald Duck's Boat and Goofy's House. The boys usually do Mickey's Toon Town Morning Madness (available through any travel package) on a day I sleep in, so it's been a while for me. Goofy's is just a toddler play area, no more bounce house and Donald's reminded me that we haven't seen Donald for 7 years since WDW! Where does he live anyway? Gadget's Go Coaster, Roger Rabbit's Cartoon Spin 40 minute wait… the longest wait of our trip! Why didn't we fast pass this? Yes, I complained! The boys have never had to wait because they always get that early entrance and had no idea it would be so long.

Tea Cups X 2 (Ride operator just
invited us to stay on!) Dumbo 10
minute wait while Daddy grabs Thunder Mountain fast passes and by the time we went to ride it was down! Apparently they were looking for someone's eye glasses. Then onto a broken Pirates of the Caribbean and we were worried our luck might be changing?!? So we walk through Tarzan Tree House (we recently watched the old Swiss Family Robinson with Awsumb .... I really miss the old tree house), Indiana Jones (fast pass no wait), Jungle Cruise (no wait) and over to the Matterhorn X 2 (1st time 20 minute wait, but 2nd time walk on after a mishap) Buzz Light Year (10 min wait) My score - 580,200 Level 5 - Beat that! (I don't even like video games!)

9:00 pm Plaza Inn for dinner and a great spot to watch Magical Fireworks Disney always has great fireworks, but it's no "Remember Dreams Come True" which are our favorite!Big Thunder Mountain finally up and running and then off to find a spot to watch the last showing of Fantasmic at 10:30 pm - no Dragon (it's had problems from day 1) No wait, we just walked up to the rope right before show time and as more people joined us they put rope around us creating a new section. We were right behind an empty section that a cast member said was the "make a wish" section. After we walked onto Indiana Jones and Jungle Cruise. Then took the Train from New Orleans to Main Street and short walk through Downtown Disney to The Grand arriving about 12:15am. Housekeeping left a note informing us the power would be out from midnight through 4am. It's almost 2am and no power outage yet. Thank goodness because all they left is a lightstick! I like to have things set out for the next day and really should get off my laptop and get to bed!

MONDAY – CALIFORNIA ADVENTURE 10-8 (
28 attractions)
Late morning arrive at 10:30. NO crowds, no waits times, all attractions walk on or stay on and go again! Sunny and warm at least 80!


Lightning McQueen & Mater Photo, Disney Visa Photo with Pluto, Muppets, Monsters Inc., Play House Disney, Mickey Photo Op, Green Army Guy, California Screamin' x 3 (Awsumb's first time – loved it!)



1:00pm Lunch at Pacific Warf Café, Soarin' Over California x2, Grizzly River Rapids x 2, Redwood Creek Playground, 3:00 Brother Bear photo op, It's Tough to Be A Bug, Heimlich Chew Chew, Flick's Flyers, Francis' Lady Bug Boogie, Drive 'em Buggies, Tower of terror x 3

5:00pm Dinner at Ariel's Grotto
Nothing to write home about… we only did this to get WOC reserved seating. Why don't they put Story Tellers or better yet NAPA ROSE on the WOC package?!

Grizzly River Rapids x 2 – and we are SOAKIN' WET! It's after 7pm and we head back to The Grand to change into dry clothes, while Kenneth went to reserve a spot on the rail for WOC






WORLD OF COLOR (8:15pm) The new amazing water show is like PAINT! LOVED IT! It was worth getting reserved seating. After the show we knew the park would be closed, but unlike DL you can't shop your way out. They obviously haven't worked things out at DCA since the addition of WOC. So we shop our way through Downtown Disney back to The Grand.


TUESDAY – Disneyland MM 9—8 (20 Attractions, including Napa Rose)We have decided to stay a few extra days and spent the morning on the phone extending our trip, so we didn't take advantage of Early Entry Hours. We arrived to the Park about 10:00.

Breakfast Beignets at Ralf Brennan's Jazz Kitchen, Monorail to Tomorrowland, Nemo (why does Nemo smell?  Nemo give me a panic attack!), Mattherhorn x2 (we like to ride each track)

Lunch at Tomorrowland Terrace children's meals are not worth it and tiny, get an adult meal and split it! Captain EO, Innovations,
We never do this, but once you get past the never ending Honda commercial it wasn't as bad as it could be. The house of the future was like visiting the Microsoft company store and while they are current, they aren't future LOL! But there were video games and stuff kids might enjoy. We missed Asimo (the Honda Robot) and didn't want to wait 30 minutes for the next show. If you go in there, go for that first!), Autopia


Meet Buzz Lightyear, Buzz Lightyear Astroblaster x 2 (My Highest Score Ever- Level 6- 980, 200 OK, so they stopped the ride to load a wheel chair and I really took advantage!)



Dole Whip, Tiki Room, Indiana Jones, Jungle Cruise, Shooting Gallery, Big Thunder Mountain, Mark Twain River Boat, Pirates of the Caribbean, Train to Monorail to The Grand to get ready for dinner at Dinner at NAPA ROSE (THANKS UNCLE C.K. and Auntie Laurel!)



 WEDNESDAY – Beach Day 10-8 (14 Attractions)


And we need a rest day! So we sleep in, have breakfast in bed and Monorail from The Grand to Tomorrowland, Pirates of the Caribbean, Splash Mountain x3Meet Pooh and Friends, Pooh Corner Treats and Dole Whip, River Rapids x 3, bought a couple of the Soakin' Awesome beach towels to take with us to the beach!


So we grab lunch at In-N- Out, and drive to Huntington Beach. Because we usually go to California in January, we never go to the beach. And although we got to the beach and lake often here in WA, I thought Awsumb needed to experience a WARM day at the beach.  The strong surd caught him off guard and he was upset about getting all sandy... Yep, that's my boy!


Pools and Hot Tub at The Grand, Late Dinner at Story Tellers
And time to play Laundry Fairy with no internet access! – LOL! Counting Dinner, Treats and In and Out (which is attraction according to my husband!) Tomorrow are going to get in on the special invite to Annual Pass Holders for the WOC late show. It's starting to look a lot like HALLOWEEN here! We are enjoying what feels like stolen summer days and will end on a great note as the parks turn to fall for the weekend and we go home.

THURSDAY - Disneyland MM 9—8 (24 Attractions)

The Park is getting busy! You can tell people are coming in for the weekend and getting excited about Halloween Festivities.

Monorail from The Grand to Tomorrowland, just after 9am, Nemo, Matterhorn x 2, Alice in Wonderland, Magic Shop Awsumb has been saving his $ for this. He bought the spirit light and was given a short lesson by the clerk.

Silhouettes by Bonnie Totally worth the time to get this done. This was our 3rd attempt this visit, as we kept finding the shop empty (hours vary).

Went into the Main Street Cinema to see original Mickey Cartoons. Because we are here all week we have time to wander through all the small things. Awsumb enjoyed seeing these all together, and watching Mickey Mouse change over time.




Picture by Mickey Pumpkin –watched filming of Halloween Commercials with Villians for a bit.
12:30pm Lunch at Storytellers (love that chicken, corn chowder soup!)
Soarin' Over California,Muppets Closed, Monsters x2, Drawn to the Magic (should be called Drawn to the Music), Meet Sorcerer Mickey and Woody, Turtle Talk

Tower of Terror (this one really freaks Awsumb out, so although there was no wait, we only went once)
 Green Army Men Operation: Playtime, California Screamin' x3


5pm ANNUAL PASS WORLD OF COLOR Fast Past lines opens and is already a mile too long, we decide it isn't worth it unless we can just walk in. So, we pick up our Free Disney Visa Photo, and head back to The Grand to Swim Awsumb goes down he waterslide a zillion times and a fully clothed Dad jumps in to rescue his NOT child.

7pm Pick up Annual Pass WORLD OF COLOR ticket and got in the Red section. People were already lining up for the next performance and we were just not going to stand around for hours. Some rides were going to be open and we had collected fast passes earlier in the day in case everyone else had the same idea. Awsumb loves to play at Redwood Creek Challenge Trail, Mulholland Madness x 2And then Kenneth gets some work phone calls and emails that needed attention (he had decided to check in at the office during our swim time, sometimes when you're on vacation it's hard to let go!) Between that and the Wild Goose Chase to find dinner! Which certainly wasn't an attraction and I will have to tell you about later (But I can't now because they are shutting off the power from midnight until 4pm. This is the second time this week and they have didn't even leave us a glow stick this time! I think they were supposed to, but saw ours sitting out from a few nights ago) We finally got to eat dinner at 8:15 pm Dinner at La Brea Bakery in Downtown Disney and were lucky that they let us back in the park for the show. We get in the back of the red line for WORLD OF COLOR
9:15 show and end up on the rail of the back section… We were not centered like the other night, but there couldn't have been a better place to watch in any red section as the back section is raised! Perfect timing.

Tomorrow is a big day, open from 9-12, all the Halloween rides open. We are so excited! OH and the GOOD FIREWORKS! Saturday will mark 8 days at Disney for us. And this has certainly been more like a Walt Disney World Vacation!

FRIDAY – Disneyland 9—12 (26 Attractions)

This was a VERY BUSY day at Disneyland for the opening of Halloween. We took things pretty easy, it was day 7 after all! Hadn't we done it all?

9:30 am We get to ride in the back of the Monorail from The Grand to Tomorrowland.
Space Mountain- Ghost Galaxy (30 min wait, get FP for later), Matterhorn x 2, Small World

Haunted Mansion Holiday x 2 (1st time through 40 min, use FP, then get FP for later)
Tom Sawyer Island, Pirates of the Caribbean, 2:40 Lunch Blue Bayou

Jack and Sally, Villians – Queen of Hearts, Frollo, Cruella Deville, Main Street - Donald Pumpkin Costume and Mickey and Pluto in Vampire Costumes. Kenneth has to have some ice cream and we listen to the Dapper Dans sing Halloween Music.



Big Thunder Mountain x 3, Jungle Cruise, Indian Jones, Space Mountain- Ghost Galaxy
8:30 Dinner at Plaza Inn and "Remember Dreams Come True" Fireworks (the good ones!)Pirates of the Caribbean, Haunted Mansion Holiday, Indiana Jones x 2, Jungle Cruise

I am soooo tired. It's been a long week. I am glad we got to enjoy the parks this week with no crowds. All the people today made me feel exhausted from the get go. Everything was just so jammed. We wasted a lot of time meeting special Halloween Characters. That was fun for us because we usually come in January. Time to pack up and get ready to head back to real life! Because the park opens at 8 tomorrow early entry is at 7, so the boys are going to go over and do a few favorites. Then we will lunch at Storytellers and head to the airport!

SATURDAY – Disneyland MM 8—12 (14 Attractions in 4 hours)
I needed to get some sleep and pack things up. But, the boys used Early Entry, leaving at 6:30, waited at the gate for the 7am opening.
Space Mountain- Ghost Galaxy 2 X walk on, Astro Orbiter, Matterhorn, Haunted Mansion Holiday x 2, Splash x 2, Adventures of Pooh, Indiana Jones (got stuck at the beginning and end of ride for about 20 minutes each so the boys opt to not do it again.), Jungle Cruise, Pirates of the Caribbean, Big Thunder Mountain, Buzz Lightyear11 am Check out at The Grand then over to Storytellers Café for lunch. And by 2 pm we were off to the airport for our 5pm flight home.

157 ATTRACTIONS TOTAL! Plus a Mariners Game!Awsumb was sad to leave what he was beginning to think of his new home.  "I was starting to think we could live there forever!" he said. 

We were so lucky to enjoy this stolen week of summer together.  And we hoped we soaked up enough sun to last through another northwest rainy winter.  (Please excuse the iphone photos, but they were the quickest to upload.)

This trip I noticed that my almost 9 year old is conscious of growing up, but because he is sensitive and sentimental, he still wants to enjoy the little kid magic. It was fun to watch him realize you don't grow out of anything at Disneyland.  And I leave you with Walt's thought from opening day....



"To all who come to this happy place: Welcome.  Disneyland is your land.  Here age relives fond memories of the past and here youth may savor the challenge and promise of the future.  Disneyland is dedicated to the ideals, the dreams and hard facts that have created America... with the hop that it will be a sourcce of joy and inspiration to all the world." 
 -Walt Disney 1955

102 Minutes That Changed America

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Remember the New York City Blackout of 2003? I can't remember all the details or how long they were out of power, but I think it's comical that many of us watched it hour by hour on TV! News crews ran around the city collecting footage of things such as: restaurants as they emptied their freezers and grilled up steaks for spontaneous block parties, ice cream palors scooping it out for free before they had to deal with a melted icecream soup mess, hotels that didn't have enough flashlights for their guests, etc. Here was an entire city with no power, people finall forced having to talk to eachother, work together, etc... and the rest of us are glued to TV screens watching it play out. Kind of pathetic and I admit because of my love for a great train wreck I watched.

So many things play out for us all on live TV these days. 20 years ago can you imagine we would watch the U.S. Army lying on their bellies in a shooting match on a bridge in Afganistan? But nothing compares to news broadcasts I watched on 9/11/01 CNN replayed the real time live footage in a special called 9/11:Five Years Later. But I think some of the most interesting footage was from civillians who just happened to catch the chaos on video as seen in 102 Minutes That Changed America And of course as I have recommended before 9/11 - the documentary that was supposed to be about a rookie firefighter who becomes a man and turned out to show him become a man in a span of 9 hours.

The subject of voyeurism is very much on my mind as I am finally reading The Hunger Games... more later.

Read last year's blog about Remembering 9/11

The Business of Being Born

Monday, September 6, 2010

Add this movie to the list of things NOT TO WATCH when yet again you are bleeding to death (signifying how NOT PREGNANT YOU ARE!) and trying to decide if you should go to the emergency room or not.  I know TMI... I have endometriosis - it's not pretty.  I have actually seen this before, just after it came out. But The Business of Being Born has been on The Movie Channel again recently and I just couldn't resist.

Because of some of the complications I had during my pregnancy such as preeclampsia and gestational diabetes, a natural birth was just not possible.  In my case, induction saved the life of my baby and my own. But even then I saw how those interventions actually hindered the process.  The induction required 24 hours with a  folley catheter, which did begin dialation and contractions.  But nothing was going to happen with out pitocin. The problem is the more pitocin I was given the stronger the contractions and the less chance I could deal with them without stadol and eventually an epidural.  And of course the pain meds caused me to need more pitocin.  I became totally suspicious that they were just pretending to give me pain meds and lying about it (later I found out this was a side effect of the stadol, feel like everyone is against you).  Oh and then there was the bunny breathing and cookie oven hallucinations. 

After 24 hours of this I was finally prepped for a c-section.  At this point I didn't care, just get the baby out. I would do whatever they said I should... and remember because of the preeclampsia who I was to question anything they told me I needed to do.  And if it weren't for another patient across the hall, also named Wendy, who decided to give birth before her doctor could arrive, I would have been taken straight to the O.R.  But somehow my symptoms normalized again and stayed that way for a few hours.  Long enough for my body to finally catch up with all the meds and give birth.

There were still a few more hurdles to go through as Awsumb was born with no heartbeat, no muscle tone, not breathing and an Apgar score of 0.  But when all that was finally worked out I had a healthy baby boy.  Although the birth wasn't natural, I was so thankful that at least I didn't have to have any further complictions from a c-section to interfere with normal attachment, bonding and even breastfeeding issues.

The more you learn about natural childbith the more you realize how totally amazing our design is.  The hormones released to help mother a cope with and forget the pain, and to bond with her baby are just amazing.  I don't know how our society began to see pregnancy as a condition that needs to be cured instead of a natural process.  No wonder so many women have trouble with attachment, breastfeeding, and depression after giving birth.

And I haven't even mentioned the costs involved.  You would think in a time when cost of healthcare is such a topic that people would realize this is one area that we could really save money if we really waited to intervene until absolutely  necessary. 

However you gave birth, whatever your complications, you and a couple girlfriends will love watching this documentary and will be able to relate to these filmakers as they tell their stories.  If anything just to remember how sweet to hold that little baby of yours for the first time!

No Time To Read!

Sunday, September 5, 2010


A friend of mine recently wrote about not understanding when people say, "I have no time to read." Because of her love of reading and because reading came easy for her at a young age and because she is just super smart I think she probably devours books the way I do soap. I kind of understood what she meant at the time, because I too love to read. And though my mind wanders and I often have to reread passages and have never have the best reading comprehension, I am always in the middle of a 2 or 3 different books, have a stack beside the bed I want to read next and of course an Amazon Wish List.

Reading is such a great sport because you can do it anywhere, anytime! My favorite times and places to read are: Rainy days, sitting in my cozy armchair curled up by the fire. And bright sunny days, sunk down into a lawn chair cooling my feet in the grass. And although you might think I would get more reading done during all those dreary days we have here in Seattle, I usually read the most in the summer. And I just knew this summer I would finally get through the stack I had let build up over the last few months.

Well, I walked by my stack the other day and realized that I didn't even make a dent! For the first time ever I understood what, "I don't have time to read." really meant. It means, "I love to read, I want to read, I plan to read, but I didn't have any TIME to read!"

As this crazy summer of ours is coming to an end, I realized this has been the busiest summer of my life and it went by in a heart beat. We never made it to the Oregon Coast. We never painted the garage. We never swam in the lake. And I didn't really have time to read.  I did listen to quite a few recorded books and even read with my little boy. I guess I need to make time. Time to be by myself, time to refect, time to read.

What keeps you from reading? When do you read most and where do you like to read?

The Nerd Krew!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

(Check back for a photo of a real Nerd Krew from the 80's!)

After marrying a self proclaimed Nerd and hanging out with his friends over the years I began to realize there were many different levels of Nerd. And most guys fit into one of more of these categories. Nerd became a badge, a term of endearment around our house even before Apple made it cool to be a Nerd. And these days it seems like just about everyone wants to claim they are a Nerd or a Geek of somekind.

Geek - A Geek is super smart, but might not be aware of his social surroundings. Think Bill Gates.

Nerd - Although a nerd is also super smart, a nerd is interesting, fun to hang out with.  Think technical evangelist.

Jock - Even Jock's can be Nerds. Sports Nerds! And although most sport football jersey's etc. How many of them are really out on that field?

Dork - Dorks thinks they are a Nerd, Geek or Jock, but are none of the above.

And after spending years defining these categories I come across this comic...
This comic is so great! I love it almost as much as the the Alltell commercial in which the guy questions the nerds, "What level dungeon master are you?" The nerds fall for the trap responding, "Dungeon Masters don't have levels!" Proving their Nerdiness even more! LOL!

CLICK this link and read this entire article and let's talk...

Why Nerds are Unpopular by Paul Graham

The thing about nerds is that...

Well, all my feelings were summed up by this first comment before I could finish this blog post (read below!)
In the end Nerds are the most interesting people, make the most interesting friends and even husbands! And as we raise our little Nerd baby we teach him to love the term Nerd and make it his own! Now if only our educational system could catch up and not only make school a place for Nerds to explore, experiment and thrive, but a place to inspire all kids to be Nerds!

Blue Womb

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

For Sale: baby shoes, never worn.

You may have heard this short story before. Though there is no proof Hemingway actually wrote it, it is a beautiful and tragic short story and honestly if you have experienced the loss of a little one there is probably no more that needs to be said. I imagine a brand new, scuff free pair of white baby shoes with tiny laces in a box, stuffed with crisp tissue paper. I can smell the leather and feel the cardboard box. Though many might see this story as a tragic story of a small babies death, if you have ever spent any time in a fertility clinic or made the mistake of buying a baby item before you carried a baby to term this sentence carries much more weight that the 25 innocent letters that made up this complete tale.

When Awsumb was about 3 or 4 he began to realize something was different about our family. Other families had babies and more babies. Ours did not. To this day he tells me on a regular basis how "lonely he is" and asks for a brother. After all these years I think he has come to accept our reality, but when he was little he was demanding answers. I simply explained to him that my body just didn’t work correctly and that HE was OUR miracle baby.

One day, out of no where Awsumb asked me, “Mom is your womb blue?” I couldn’t figure out what he was talking about. “No, I don’t think so?” I replied. “Well, maybe that’s the problem,” Awsumb said. And the conversation ended there.

A few weeks later I went to check on Awsumb before I went to bed. I usually find him in asleep, covered in books and stuffies. This night I found him in bed with his children’s encyclopedia. Ya know, with all those pastel colored pictures and simple statements describing our bodies. The book was open to a page featuring a side view of a baby in a mother’s womb. To represent the amniotic fluid the space was colored blue. When I lifted the book I realized the spine of the book had been broken to turn automatically to this page. It was obvious that this was the reason little Dr. Awsumb had diagnosed my infertility to be “Lack of a Blue Womb.”

Awsumb’s diagnoses is wrong.
My woom is empty and very blue.

Where do babies come from?

The question every parent dreads...

A couple years after the "blue womb" discussion as we were having dinner at a nice restaurant. There wasn’t anyone sitting too close to us, but it was quiet in the restaurant. Awsumb was coloring quietly and then all of a sudden piped up in a LOUD voice,

“Mom, ya know that special place on a woman that’s hidden….”

------PAUSE------

The second I heard “special place” I knew we were in trouble. I gripped the table ready for anything as he continued,

“where a woman has a baby out of if she doesn’t need surgery…”

---Second Pause---

And I quickly tried to figure out what I was going to say that would shut him up without him asking more questions OR getting louder.

Then I remembered we recently watched a show on the health channel about a family that had 6 babies at once and the mom had a c-section, which of course grossed Awsumb . So at the time I told him that’s just because the woman had so many at once and that isn’t normal… I guess he had been thinking about this for a while. But as he drew in breath to finish I realized, I didn’t have the luxury of time or privacy to have a very informative talk about this now

“Where exactly is it and what’s it called?” Awsumb asked as matter of fact just as if he was asking for direction to the nearest grocery store.

Why do they always ask these types of questions when your least prepared and in the most public places?